May is half way over already! Time has been flying by this year. How are you holding up? Is this time at home giving you a struggle with mental health? Are you more stressed, or maybe more tired…
Its okay. This isnt a normal life right now. It can be challenging and hard. If you have kids you might be battling a few issues at once. Maybe you dont have kids but are struggling because of a loss of a job.
No matter what is going on, please know there are resources, there are people to help!
Mental disorders; there’s more than just anxiety and depression. OCD is super common, but it can be an issue! Phobias, ugh I have a few. They can make certain tasks harder than need be. Bipolar disorder often times goes misdiagnosed…eating disorders… they may be triggered by stress.
What ever the problem is, know that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to enjoy life. If you are struggling, reach out to me and i can help find the right people to talk to.
I think marriage for most people looks the same. I’d say the majority of us deal with similar issues. Some more grave, and some more lighthearted…
Lets take a look at finances- the end all for some people. AI think its important to talk about money. I know we do every two weeks, and whenever else its needed. We make our paycheck budget, pay bills together etc. Keep communication open is key. Finances become an issue when lies are told or deceit is there. So talk, communicate and budget together.
Space! Every single person needs space and time alone. It is hard for some of us to get that but it is so important… especially with this at home time we are all experiencing. For me the moment my kids are napping I am doing my work alone in quiet. Or watching a movie or hell even a mid day bath/shower. Space is crucial for mental health and health in general.
Accepting that you can not and should not need to or have to change the other person. They are who they are, that does not reflect you. Sometimes people change for the better and sometimes for the worse.
Learn to express yourself. Meaning, communicate. It is KEY to a healthy marriage. No matter how you may be feeling, it is crucial you communicate that. It may be hard, sometimes it may help to type it out or write it down. I like to start tough conversations on paper or in text form until I’m able to verbally speak it and make sense.
That’s my advice for now. What is your opinion? Agree or disagree with what I’ve said?
Do you have some love story or maybe a chance meeting changed the rest of your life story?
I have a both kinda….
You see I was 19, and just got stationed in Japan. I was newly out of a shitty relationship.. okay, I went to japan to get out of it.
One night I was out with a few friends and in walks my husband. He comes up to me and starts talking, me having zero intrest kind of blew it off. His friends joined in and started asking what part of the ship I’d be working in, soon to find out… we would all be working together.
Three days later i met my husband out for drinks and the rest is history. You could almost say it was love at first sight… it was love in a bar after knowing each other for 4 days. We’ve had our “breakups” where we said we were no longer together but still spent everyday together… almost 6 years later and 2 kiddos together and here we are.
Still my valentine. No marriage is perfect, but when you find your person, then you overcome it all.
How did you meet your spouse? Let me know in the comments!